What To Do When Patience Isn’t Enough
Last year I wrote a piece about being vulnerable and why so many of us struggle with it. It’s peoples struggle with this concept that creates false expectations from those looking from afar.
People simply show the end result on places like social media so it’s no surprise that we have issues with instant gratification aka lack of patience.
Not being vulnerable doesn't lead to lying per se, but it does leave leaving facts out.
So thats not what I am here to do today or in any of my posts.
I hate being patient.
Writing that was difficult for me because I know how important it is to what I am doing and to life in general, but it’s the truth.
I know that but it still doesn't change the fact that I’m stuck in this cycle of knowing I need to be patient and feeling guilty that I’m not.
Knowing that I have to be patient is a million times easier than actually being patient.
I can say that I am being patient but if all I do during that time is think “what if this is a waste of time” or “why am I not seeing results” then am I really being patient?
Patience is not simply the ability to wait — it’s how we behave while we’re waiting— Joyce Meyer
So what can we all do when patience isn’t enough?
Stop judging yourself.
When I am impatient it’s because I am judging myself based on where I am now.
I am not who you think I am; I am not who I think I am; I am who I think you think I am— Thomas Cooley
Being patient means enjoying the process but more importantly being ok with whatever is happening. I shouldn't care what people think about my success or failures.
It takes relentless commitment and disregard for the end result while not judging myself with the speed of my progress or lack thereof.
I personally find clarity when writing so writing this helps my thought process and helps me realize why I do what I do. So I need to take this advice as much as the next person.
This past week I've shifted to taking things for what they are and not judging myself on where I am.
Being patient is hard but I realized that the reasons why I'm impatient are because I’m judging myself and feeling like I haven’t accomplished anything when in reality I have.
Whether people are supportive of me or not shouldn't affect whether or not I get the most important support of all.. my own support.
Money, clients, praise, website visits, sales, and progress shouldn't affect what I think about myself. All of these things are important but they don’t define self-worth.
So when I can’t find any more patience left within myself then I must find the strength to give myself grace and realize that:
I cant get to where I am going without first being where I am now