Why We Fear the V Word In Our Writing
The V word?
Yes! It’s the thing that makes you feel exposed yet powerful at the same time.
Your true interests, thoughts, and experiences are exposed for everyone to learn about and in turn judge.
You feel as powerful as ever knowing that you are being your true self no matter what anyone thinks.
This is where the fear comes in.
See most people and writers cant help but somewhat care what others think of them.
Caring about what others think is the root of many of our fears.
You want to write it down and may even do so, but when it comes to actually publishing why are we so afraid of being vulnerable?
Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness- Brené Brown
That’s the word that so many writers run away from because it requires an insane amount of emotion, thought, digging, and straight up honesty.
A type of honesty that let’s people into the inner workings of your mind and most importantly your life.
To be completely honest, one of the reasons I hesitated in starting to write on medium was because of the possibility of my friends somehow bumping into my profile.
What if they actually read some of the stuff I had to say? What would they think of me? Would they think I am a good writer? Would they think I am crazy?
Some of the things I have written about (and desperately want to write about) I haven't even told some of my closest friends. Maybe it’s because I have an easier time expressing my thoughts in writing vs. talking or maybe its because I am getting better at being vulnerable in my writing.
The more you do it the better you become at it. Being vulnerable is something you just have to work on, it’s like growing a muscle. The more you do it and the heavier the weight (or level of vulnerability) the stronger you will get.
Getting out of your comfort zone doesn't just apply to your life experiences but to the sharing of them.
After all, the best way to get a message across is by telling a story so what better way to do this than to tell your story.
The fact that someone may identify and/or benefit from our story makes succumbing to vulnerability well worth it.
We may not owe anyone anything but we owe it to ourselves to have the freeing experience of letting go of the fear. You owe it to yourself to finally write that book, post, article, or whatever type of piece you’ve been meaning to get off your chest.
Being vulnerable is becoming transparent about what you feel or have felt during some point in your life. It’s about taking the reader on your lowest low’s, highest highs, and in-betweens.
It’s about helping the reader become you for a moment and extracting valuable lessons from your experiences.
That time you crashed and burned during your first start up is full of lessons that just needs you to have the courage to share it with the world. Or that time you struggled as a writer but then figured out the embarrassing mistakes you were making. Or the time you sat in your living room crying for the first time because you were full of regret.
There is no right or wrong.
It comes down to whether you are being real or deciding to hold back.
We all have a story to tell. Your story is what makes you you so don’t be afraid to share it with the world.
There is simply no substitute for being real and embracing the art of being vulnerable. So show up and tell it like it is!
Like everything in life, it takes time so I am still learning how to let go and show more of the real me because after all there is no one else I would rather be.